Over the past few years of being a pro dating coach, I’ve had guys come up to me and ask Manny, if I could fix one thing today to start generating MASSIVE amounts of attraction from beautiful women, what would it be? To that, I simply respond: Your body language. So without further ado, here are the seven body language fixes you can make to day to massively increase your attractiveness to hot women and women in general.
1. Eye contact
They say our eyes are the windows to our souls. That is why girls like to make eye contact with guys. This is very key as women can tell if you are telling the truth or lying by looking into your eyes. They will often gauge you and our interaction off of this one trait so it is important to have this dialed down. The key to this is to look at the girl at the bridge of her nose instead of from eye to eye. Go for dominant but relaxed eye contact (don’t stare her down). If you do break eye contact, make sure it is to the side and not downwards as that shows a lack of confidence.
2. Vocal Projection
Along with eye contact, this is quite possibly the strongest form of sub-communication available to us. You can tell how confident someone is by how loud they are when they are talking to you. When people are feeling confident they are likely to talk louder and in the same instance when they are feeling unconfident or unsure, their voice lowers. When talking to a girl, always talk from your diaphragm and talk like you are talking 3 feet behind her. Don’t talk to her, talk THROUGH her. And remember, when interacting with girls it is better to ere on the side of talking too loudly then on the side of not talking loudly enough because talking to loudly is still a confident trait, while not talking loudly enough is not.
3. Vocal Tonality
Your vocal tonality is the way your voice sounds when you are speaking. There are three basic types of tonality: Trying for rapport tonality, Neutral Rapport Tonality and Breaking Rapport Tonality. These tonalities stand for when your voice slopes up (Trying For Rapport Tonality), when your voice stays even (Neutral Rapport Tonality) and when your voice slopes downwards (Breaking Rapport Tonality). A lot of guys when talking to a girl slip into Trying For Rapport Tonality (voice sloping upwards). This is bad because it signals to a girl that you are trying too hard to please her. When you talk to girls you should think “How would her Dad, boss, or boyfriend talk to her? (as far as tonality goes). The answer is with a commanding, authoritative voice or neutrally (BR & NR Tonality).
Always stand straight, with your shoulders back and head centered. A good way to think about it is by imagining there is a string running from the top of your head through your feet. Another way is to picture yourself wearing a cape, but trying not to let the train touch the ground. Keep your hands out of your pockets, not just because it shows a lack of confidence, but also because open body language is attractive to women.
The two things you should remember when perfecting your walk is “Tall & Relaxed”. A great trick to learning an alpha walk is to think about any movie characters or celebrities you admire and copy the way they walk from movies, tv shows, news clips etc. You should walk with purpose but not too quickly. The important thing is to walk at your own pace and do not let others hurry you or slow you down.
The key here is to take up space. The more space you take up, the better. The signals to girls that you view yourself a being important over strangers. An insecure person would hunch up and make themselves smaller to accommodate others – DO NOT DO THIS. Remember, the hallmark of good body language is being open and taking up space. Another thing when sitting or even standing is to draw attention to your crotch. You can do this by wearing an interesting belt, or putting you hand through the belt-loops closest to your crotch area.
7. Take Up Space
Confident guys take up space. By taking up space you tell people that you think of yourself as being important over others and to treat you as such. A lot of people think this selfish behavior and will offend other people. You know what? Both are true! See, the thing is nobody wants you to become good with women, not even your family. When you follow the high-status behaviors I’ve listed in this guide, you will be met with some resistance. This is good as it let you know you behavior are evolving to more attractive ones. If you behaved the same, no one would say anything!
In conclusion, having good body language is the quickest way to start generating MASSIVE amounts of attraction from women TODAY. Good sub-communication short-circuits her hard-wiring and lets her know that this is a guy she should be paying attention to. The great thing is that you don’t need any pickup lines or routines and it can be done in a day so no need to go out every day and talk to thousands of girls.
Body Language accounts for about 85% of communication and is the most honest form of communication between humans because it CANNOT be faked. Handling your body language now instead of later will rapidly accelerate your progress in meeting and dating the kind of women you desire. Whether you want to find a girlfriend, find a wife, or just sleep with a lot of beautiful women, body language is definitely the best place to start.